
When facing the difficulty and pickyness of her parents-in-law, the daughter-in-law complained to her husband. The husband did not want to deal with it or was afraid of being ill, and only responded: "Just ignore them!" In the end, it caused the daughter-in-law to develop depression syndrome (PTSD).
Dr. Zhou Bohan, Department of Physical and Physical Medicine at Hsinchu Affiliated Hospital of China Medical University, shared a real case. A daughter-in-law who lives with her parents-in-law, because her husband has worked in mainland China for a long time, she stayed in Taiwan to take care of her parents-in-law and children. However, her efforts were not treated kindly and grateful. Her in-laws were not only picky about her, but also picky about the family affairs she did. She felt that it was very stressful and lived a scrupulous life every day.
She dreamed almost every night, and felt that life was worse than death, so she decided to suffer with her husband. Unexpectedly, after hearing this, the husband only said: "Just ignore them!"
How irresponsible is this sentence? All mothers who have problems with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law know! Even if I don’t care, I’m in the same house every day, and it takes a lot of time to spend, opening the door and the room are all stressful, and after a long time, my heart is filled with stressful pain and fear.
The damage accumulated by the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's problem is the unforgettable shadow in the daughter-in-law's heartAlthough this mother has been pursuing divorce many times, she still gritted her teeth and snatched her past for the sake of the child. Finally, when my parents-in-law passed away and the child grew up, my husband returned to Taiwan to live together. At this time, my mother actually developed depression.
It turns out that whenever she sees her husband, she will recall the scene of her abuse by her parents-in-law that year and the damage of her words, and will never go away. When I think of it, my emotions will suddenly become furious, panic, want to arise, and even be angry with the gentleman.
The family didn't understand why the old things had to be brought up again after ten years? Haven't it all gone?
Those things are indeed the past for others, but for the abused daughter-in-law, it is a harm that is always difficult for a son to treat drugs and treat marriage later, but the effect is still not good. Later, he went to the doctor Zhou Bohan to take care of the doctor, and after combining drugs, magnetic stimulation therapy (rTMS) and psychological counseling, the symptoms improved.
1. Injury experience: Even if time passes, it will continue to recall and feel like you are in the situation.
2. Over-warning: long-term anxiety, panic, irritability or depression.
3. Escape and numbness: will escape people and things related to the invasion.
4. Related negative perceptions and emotions: remembering that when you create memories in the past, it will trigger strong emotional reactions.
Bohan Zhou, a former researcher at the Harvard PTSD Research Center, pointed out that the end prevalence of PTSD is 8%. Compared with depression, PTSD patients may have normal and stable emotions, but when they think about the injury, they will fall into depression and hysteria and last for several weeks.
According to a recent study published in the International Journal of Psychiatric Research, when patients with PTSD experience relapse, the risk of self-killing or violence also increases.
Dr. Zhou Bohan emphasized that the most common encounter with "abused daughter-in-law" is that both Mr. and daughter cannot understand "why things have gone through so long, but they have to keep bringing up the old things again." Friends who have been suffering from the week have also been asking patients to "let go", which is actually different from the location where PTSD affects the brain.
Dr. Zhou Bohan supplemented that the main brain misalignment of PTSD is the amygdala in the brain, which is responsible for sacrificing experience. Patients with PTSD experiences that "life is worse than death" have experienced, resulting in long-term over-activated amygdala, causing the body to experience symptoms such as excessive alertness, fear, fear, excessive change, and nightmares, which is an "instant out-of-control reaction". Therefore, when patients develop, they will suddenly lose control of their physical and mental state.
When facing difficult problems with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and family, how to avoid the injury syndrome of daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law? Dr. Zhou Bohan put forward four suggestions:
1. When a wife encounters unfair treatment in her family, the gentleman must express his support for his wife, rather than just asking her to see her and ignore them.
2. When the wife feels she can't breathe, she returns to her parents' home at any time to let her body and mind rest and relax.
3 The daughter-in-law must leave some time for herself, rather than giving it to the family.
4. If PTSD has been produced, it is recommended to seek professional assistance. Generally, it is recommended to combine drug treatment with psychological treatment. If the drug treatment is not effective and the disease is combined with depression, it can be combined with rTMS for treatment.