"We are a family after we get married." This is what parents-in-law said to their daughter-in-law, but the actual situation is like a person knows the heat and coldness of the water. A female netizen posted a message saying that she has been married to her husband for 5 years and often feels that her husband is in defense. She has recently gone to pay a visit. Her mother-in-law's response and actions have made her feel even more disheartened.
Female netizen said that it was a very profound feeling. That day, my mother-in-law was about to leave, so she asked her daughter-in-law to help her and prepare to take the fruits for her worship to her daughter-in-law's house. But because the two lived next door, the daughter-in-law wanted to tell her about her mother-in-law's time, so she said to her: "Don't be so troublesome. Just put the things there (mother-in-law's house). Give me the key, I'll prepare it now."
{99}I didn't expect that my mother-in-law said, "No need, Move west to your side, just prepare to worship again! "My daughter-in-law thought that she would move in this way, so she took the key again. After thinking about it, her mother-in-law actually replied, "Otherwise, I will put the fruits and the table directly outside, and you will worship again."
After many years of marriage, she was still stunned by outsiders. In a hot day, her mother-in-law would rather put the fruits outside her home in the sun. She didn't want to hand over the keys at home to her, and couldn't help but feel "Will you be too distant? I've been married to my husband for five years, but I still don't trust me, treat me as an outsider, and dare not hand over the keys at home to me."She said she was not satisfied because her mother-in-law clearly had her keys, so she would go in and out of her daughter-in-law's house if she was not moved, but she wouldn't give her the keys to her daughter-in-law, but she wouldn't give her the keys to her. She was like she was preventing a thief.
Some netizens replied with deep emotion: "You are your own person when you need help. Usually, outsiders are outsiders" and "My mother-in-law treats you as an outsider after 500 years of marriage!" But some netizens think in reverse and think that this is better, "Stop not blame you if you lose your things", "If you have a key, you will want you this and that one", "I don't have a key in my husband's house either, I think it's good; I don't have to go back often"
How to cultivate trust between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?If you want to bring the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law closer, one party must first make changes. As can be seen in the above example, even if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live differently, it does not mean that there is no mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problem. Because everyone has different social experiences and growth environments, the development points of thinking may be different. The words you say will give different feelings to the person you hear, or maybe the mother-in-law does not mean to be cautious about the daughter-in-law. It is that you are cautious in your own personality and have a strong sense of distance.
As a late daughter-in-law, you can think in the same position and do your best. If you really feel that you are always misunderstood, you have to discuss with your best teammate husband. Please help your husband. If you think your mother-in-law can communicate, choose the right time to coordinate. After the son, the mother still listens more and promotes the understanding and trust of the three parties. It is really important to have your husband help.